This or That for Couples
Quick pairs like coffee or tea, answered on instinct.
- Time
- 3–10 min
- Players
- Two players, one phone
- Best for
- Short waits and breaks
- Deck
- 100 pairs in five categories
How to play this or that together
- Pick a category from the menu on the card, or leave it on “All categories”.
- One of you taps a pick while the other looks away. The pick is hidden right away.
- The other taps theirs and both picks appear together.
- Keep it quick: tap “Next question” and go again.
When to play this or that
This or that is the shortest game on the site. Each card is a quick preference, with room for a reason if you want to share one, so it fits into the smallest gaps in a day.
Waiting in line
Ten pairs fit inside any wait. Romance pairs are best saved for last.
On a coffee break
Food pairs between the first sip and the last, and you will finally settle the pizza question.
Winding down after work
Ten Lifestyle pairs when neither of you has the energy for a longer game.
Ways to play
Speed round
Give yourselves three seconds per pair to keep the pace brisk. Pause on any pair that deserves a longer conversation.
Predict your partner
Instead of picking your own preference, pick what you think your partner would choose. Compare notes afterward. This works well after a round of the normal game.
On two phones or over a video call
Make a code on the long distance page and open This or That with it on both phones, on the same category. Say your picks over the call, then both tap “Skip this one” to move on.
Tips for a better game
- Start with the first choice that comes to mind. If you change your mind, that is worth talking about too.
- Same pick or different, ask each other for the one-sentence reason.
All 100 this or that questions for couples
Every pair in the game, sorted by category. Read them as “this or that?” and answer on instinct.
Food
Coffee or tea, pizza or burgers, and the rest of the eternal questions.
- CoffeeorTea
- PizzaorBurgers
- SweetorSavory
- BreakfastorDinner
- Cook at homeorEat out
- ChocolateorVanilla
- SpicyorMild
- SmoothieorMilkshake
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- TacosorSushi
- PancakesorWaffles
- Ice creamorCake
- Salty snacksorSweet snacks
- FruitorVegetables
- SouporSalad
- Hot chocolateorIced coffee
- PopcornorNachos
- BagelorCroissant
- PastaorRice
- Cheese boardorChocolate box
- BrunchorLate-night snack
Lifestyle
Mornings, seasons, cats, dogs and how you like to live.
- One free afternoonorOne free evening
- SummerorWinter
- CityorCountryside
- BooksorMovies
- CatsorDogs
- BathorShower
- TextorCall
- Early birdorNight owl
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- MinimalistorMaximalist
- PlannerorSpontaneous
- GymorOutdoors
- PodcastsorMusic
- Big partyorSmall dinner
- SaverorSpender
- Window seatorAisle seat
- TidyorCozy mess
- SunriseorSunset
- RainorSnow
- Quiet night inorBig night out
- Old houseorBrand-new house
Travel
Beaches, mountains and how you pack.
- BeachorMountains
- HotelorCamping
- Road triporFlight
- MuseumorMarket
- BackpackorSuitcase
- Plan everythingorWing it
- Hot destinationorCold destination
- CruiseorTrain journey
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- Window seatorAisle seat
- Local foodorFamiliar food
- HikingorSightseeing
- IslandorDesert
- Guided tourorFind your own way
- Photos of everythingorMemories only
- Spa dayorAdventure day
- LakeorOcean
- One long triporMany short trips
- SouvenirsorExperiences
- First flight outorSleep in, leave late
- Historic townorModern skyline
Fun
Games, movies, music and how you spend a free evening.
- Board gamesorVideo games
- KaraokeorDancing
- ComedyorThriller
- SuperheroesorWizards
- ConcertorTheater
- PuzzleorTrivia
- AnimationorLive action
- Sci-fiorFantasy
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- MusicalsorDocumentaries
- Card gamesorCharades
- BowlingorMini golf
- Movie nightorGame night
- ReadingorDrawing
- Amusement parkorZoo
- Mystery novelorRomance novel
- Rewatch a favoriteorTry something new
- Improv showorStand-up show
- Escape roomorArcade
- CrosswordorSudoku
- PicnicorBarbecue
Romance
Gestures, dates and small preferences that matter more than they should.
- FlowersorChocolates
- Sunset walkorCandlelit dinner
- Handwritten noteorVoice message
- CuddlesorKisses
- Surprise dateorPlanned date
- Pet namesorFirst names
- StargazingorSunrise hike
- Love lettersorLove songs
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- Inside jokesorShared playlists
- Long hugorForehead kiss
- Matching mugsorMatching pajamas
- Weekend getawayorStaycation
- Slow morningsorLate nights
- Holding handsorArm around the shoulder
- Say itorShow it
- Anniversary triporAnniversary dinner
- Photo albumorVideo montage
- Dance lessonsorCooking class
- Homemade giftorStore-bought gift
- RooftoporBeach
Frequently asked questions
What is the difference between this or that and would you rather?
This or that is about quick preferences, like coffee or tea, that you answer in a second. Would you rather uses longer dilemmas worth a minute of conversation. Both are played the same way: pick in secret, then reveal together.
Does the game keep score?
It keeps a simple count of how many pairs you picked the same and how many differently, just for this visit. It is a bit of fun, not a measurement of anything: same or different, every pair has a story behind it.
Will the same pair come up twice?
Not while you stay on one category. The game shuffles the pairs and deals each one once before it reshuffles. Changing the category starts a new shuffle.
Is there a version for friends and family?
Yes. This or that questions has quick picks for any group, from a team meeting to a family dinner.