Questions to Ask Your Crush
Easy, curious questions for someone you like, whether you’re texting, meeting for coffee or a few hangouts in.
- Time
- 5–30 min
- Players
- Two players, no turns
- Best for
- Texting, coffee and early dates
- Deck
- 90 questions in 6 categories
How to use these questions to ask your crush
- Pick a category from the menu under the card, or keep “All categories”.
- Read the question on the top card aloud and both answer it.
- Swipe the card away, or tap “Next question”, for the next one. Questions do not repeat until you have seen the whole category.
- Tap the heart to save a question on this device, or tap “Make a 10-question list” for a list you can copy.
When to ask your crush these questions
Liking someone can make it hard to think of anything to say. A few good questions take the pressure off, keep the conversation moving both ways, and show you’re curious about who they are.
Right after you swap numbers
Easy openers and Over text are short enough to answer between meetings and always leave room for a reply.
Waiting in line or out on a walk
Fun and hypothetical fills the minutes before a movie or a table, and the silly answers tend to come up again later.
A few hangouts in
Lightly flirty and A little deeper go further, once you know they enjoy talking to you too.
Ways to ask your crush these questions
Send one, then wait
Pick a card from Over text, put it in your own words and send it. Reply to the answer before you send another. One question every few hours keeps a conversation going for days without feeling like a quiz.
Let them pick the category
Sitting together? Hand over the phone and let them choose between Fun and hypothetical and A little deeper. Whichever they pick, you both answer the card that comes up.
Keep a few for later
Heart the Lightly flirty cards you like and hold them for the second or third time you meet, once you can tell the interest goes both ways.
Tips for talking to your crush
- Match their energy. If the answers are short, stay with Easy openers; once they start asking questions back, you can go a little further.
- If you like different things, ask what they love about theirs. Every answer gives you something to talk about.
- Lightly flirty works best after a few good conversations, not as the very first message.
All 90 questions to ask your crush by category
The complete list, grouped by category. The cards above draw from the same list, so you can read ahead here and play there.
Easy openers
Light questions about the week, the city and what keeps them busy, for the first few conversations.
- Did you do anything fun this weekend, or was it more of a recharge weekend?
- What’s keeping you busy these days, outside of work?
- Have you found a new favorite place to eat around here lately?
- What’s your go-to plan when a Friday night is wide open?
- What’s the last thing you got really excited to tell someone about?
- Are you more of a stay-in-and-cook person or a let’s-try-that-new-place person?
- What’s a show you’re watching right now that I should start?
- What brought you to this city, or have you always lived here?
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- How do you usually spend the first hour after work?
- What’s the most fun you’ve ever had on a random weeknight?
- Do you have a trip coming up, or one you’re quietly plotting?
- What’s the best thing you’ve cooked in your own kitchen lately?
- What’s your favorite thing to do within walking distance of your place?
- What’s a new thing you tried lately that you’d actually do again?
- What’s the best piece of news you’ve heard this week?
Over text
Short questions that work as a message and are easy to answer from wherever they are.
- What’s the most-used emoji on your keyboard right now?
- Send me one song that sums up your day so far.
- What’s for dinner tonight? Be honest.
- On a scale of one to ten, how was your day, and why that number?
- What’s the view from where you’re sitting right now?
- What’s the nicest thing that happened to you today?
- Long voice notes or long texts: which kind of person are you?
- What’s the last thing you put in an online shopping cart and never bought?
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- Describe your weekend so far in three emojis.
- What’s the funniest thing someone said to you today?
- What’s a video that made you laugh out loud this week?
- What’s the snack situation at your desk right now?
- What are you doing right now, and would you rather be doing something else?
- Good-morning texts or goodnight texts: which do you like getting more?
- Which GIF would describe your day right now? Send it.
Getting to know you
Hobbies, friends, mornings and days off: the small things that make up who they are.
- What’s something you’re a little nerdy about?
- What’s a hobby you picked up as an adult that you’d never have guessed?
- On weekends, are you a planner or more of a go-with-the-flow person?
- What’s on your bookshelf, or in your audiobook queue, right now?
- What’s your favorite thing to do when you have the apartment to yourself?
- Are you a tidy-as-you-go person or a big-clean-on-Sunday person?
- How did you meet your closest friends here?
- What’s something you collect, even by accident?
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- When does your weekend really start: Friday night or Saturday at noon?
- How do you like to spend your birthday: big plans or something low-key?
- What’s your favorite way to spend a day off in the middle of the week?
- What does staying active look like for you: a gym, a sport, long walks or none of the above?
- Do you follow a sport or a team, or are you happily clueless?
- What’s your apartment like: full of plants, covered in posters, or nearly bare walls?
- With your friends, are you a texter or a caller?
Fun and hypothetical
Made-up situations with no wrong answers, for when you both want to be a little silly.
- If you could live inside any movie for a week, which would you choose?
- If you woke up fluent in every language, where would you go first?
- You get a free month off work, starting tomorrow. How do you spend it?
- If your apartment came with one magic room, what would it do?
- If you could be an extra in any TV show, which would you pick?
- Would you rather be famous for your cooking, your dancing or your laugh?
- If you could swap lives with someone for a day, who would it be?
- If you opened a tiny shop on your street, what would it sell?
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- If you could make one rule every restaurant had to follow, what would it be?
- If you could have any animal as a sidekick for a week, which would you choose?
- Which fictional place would you visit for a weekend if you could?
- In a heist movie, what would your role on the crew be?
- If you could be instantly great at one kind of dance, which would you pick?
- If you could only listen to one album for a month, which would you pick?
- If a robot could take over one chore forever, which would you hand it?
Lightly flirty
Sweet questions about the two of you that let them know you’re interested, nothing more.
- What’s something you’ve wanted to ask me but haven’t yet?
- What’s your go-to move when you want to make someone laugh?
- What was going through your head the first time we talked?
- Has a song been reminding you of anyone lately?
- If we had a whole free Saturday, where would you take me?
- Be honest: did you check whether I’d texted back this morning?
- What’s a small thing someone can do that wins you over right away?
- Would you rather I surprised you with coffee or with a playlist?
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- Which of my texts has made you laugh the most so far?
- Which neighborhood would you pick for a long walk with me?
- If you taught me one thing you’re good at, what would the first lesson be?
- What would you guess my coffee order is?
- If we got stuck in an airport for six hours, how would we pass the time?
- What’s a little habit of yours you secretly hope someone notices?
- Which three songs would you pick for our first road trip?
A little deeper
Questions about trust, confidence and hopes, for once the conversation flows on its own.
- What’s a decision you made that turned out better than you hoped?
- What do you hope people feel after spending time with you?
- Which small kindness from a stranger have you never forgotten?
- What’s something you’ve learned to enjoy doing alone?
- What do you value most in the people you keep close?
- Which part of your life right now feels most like you chose it?
- Which place you’ve lived shaped you more than you expected?
- How can you tell when a new friendship is going to last?
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- Who’s someone you met by chance who ended up mattering a lot?
- What would you do more of if you gave yourself permission?
- Where do you hope you’ll be living a few years from now?
- What do people usually learn about you only on the third or fourth hangout?
- After a busy, social weekend, do you want more people or a quiet night in?
- Which song or book came along at exactly the right time for you?
- What’s a tradition you’ve started on your own since moving out?
Frequently asked questions
How many questions to ask your crush are there?
There are 90 questions, 15 in each of six categories: easy openers, over text, getting to know you, fun and hypothetical, lightly flirty, and a little deeper. The cards and the list on this page use the same set.
What should you ask your crush over text?
Short questions that are easy to answer from anywhere: what’s for dinner, a song for their day, the view from where they’re sitting. The Over text category is written for that. Send one at a time and respond to the answer before you ask the next.
Who are these questions written for?
For adults who like someone, whether you met through friends, at work, at the gym or on an app. The cards ask about work, apartments, weekends and trips. None of them are about school, and nothing goes past sweet.
What comes after questions to ask your crush?
A date, hopefully. Take first date questions along for the conversation, and look through first date ideas when it’s time to pick a place.